ChiCuapCuap~

This October began with a lighter feeling than the previous month. Maybe last month’s chaos forced me to grow sturdier, so even a small bit of peace felt like sunlight breaking through.

But that calm didn’t stay for long. In the middle of the month, I was hit with chickenpox. I was worried about scars. People say that getting it as an adult leaves marks that don’t fade easily. Thankfully, the marks on my skin were few. But the pain beneath the surface was another story. In those first days, my body felt like it had turned into fragile glass, every movement ached, even staying still felt like pressure from within. My appetite vanished completely. Even my favorite foods failed to stir anything in me. They just went to waste. I survived mostly on water and tiny bites of snacks, just enough to keep myself going.

And then, as one wave settled, another rose. My husband fell sick too and not just physically. His spirit dimmed. It was the first time he let me see the weight he’d been carrying. I realized we were both walking through the same fog, each of us quietly trying not to trouble the other. We were both tired, both overwhelmed, both had moments of wanting to give up. There were moments when both of us felt close to the edge. Yet in the middle of all that heaviness, our child remained the small, steady lighthouse guiding us forward. A reminder of why we keep standing, even when life feels like it keeps trying to knock us down.

Ironically, this month was supposed to be a joyful one, our child’s birth month. A time for gratitude, celebration, warmth. Instead, it felt muted and grey. But hidden within that gloom, something important happened: we began to understand each other more honestly. There was a quiet sense of relief in knowing that it wasn’t only me who felt pressured or hopeless, that both of us were carrying our own pain, silently. It's a blessed neither of us was walking alone. We were two tired travelers resting under the same sky, sharing the same quiet fears.

October taught me that expectations shouldn’t become invisible ropes around someone else’s shoulders. That supporting each other means recognizing when the other is close to breaking. That sometimes strength isn’t about pushing forward, but about admitting we’re worn down.

For November, my hope is simple: that my husband finds job that can help steady our steps again. I’m wishing for a month where the light returns slowly but surely, even if only in small rays. As long as we continue moving forward together, that’s enough.