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December felt strangely flat. Nothing truly stood out, nothing felt memorable in a significant way. On the surface, it looked more relaxed compared to November. But when I looked back more honestly, I realized that the beginning of December was actually very heavy. The dominant feeling that stayed with me throughout the month was being overwhelmed, quietly, constantly.

Work became one of the main sources of exhaustion. I experienced burnout, not only because of the workload that piled up toward the end of the year, but also because of something that seemed small yet deeply affected my mood: my laptop. Every morning began with frustration. The laptop kept malfunctioning, and even after being “fixed,” it never truly worked properly. Starting the day already annoyed made everything feel heavier. Burnout came from those two things combined, the technical struggle and the accumulation of tasks. Fortunately, in the middle of the month, the office lent me a new laptop. Since then, the burnout slowly faded, and work became more manageable again.

There was no year-end target chasing, no resolutions to fulfill. I stopped setting yearly goals a long time ago. Living life itself already feels exhausting enough, adding annual resolutions only makes it worse. I personally prefer setting monthly goals, based on current needs and circumstances. December also felt lighter because of the many holidays: Christmas, New Year, and the remaining leave days I used. At least, I had some time to rest.

Financially, I feel tired of hoping things will get better ever since my husband was laid off [Stepping Into a Role I Never Asked For]. My mindset has shifted into survival mode: just live today. If there is money, Alhamdulillah. If there isn’t, then it is what it is, as long as my child can eat. Even so, I realized that I spent quite a lot this month, mostly on snacks and eating out. I tried to hold back, but I still kept craving food, this and that.

The worries never really stopped. I often find myself wondering, why does my life feel like this, over and over again? People say life goes in cycles, sometimes up, sometimes down. But why does it feel like mine is always down? Maybe my life’s wheel is oval, not round, hehe. I reflect a lot on why our life turned out this way, and if I’m asked what needs to be fixed, the answer is painful: there are so many things. Too many.

Mentally, there was a moment when I felt completely exhausted. My two-year-old was being fussy, wanting many things but unable to express them clearly. In that moment, I consciously pushed him until he fell. I felt immediate regret. But at the same time, I was so tired and just wanted to be understood. And yet, I know my child also wants to be understood. That realization hurt.

Regarding my relationship, my self-reflection led me to think that perhaps my life feels this way because I complain too much about my husband. I count his flaws, resent his shortcomings, and compare him to other men. But at the same time, I question myself: how am I supposed not to feel this way if he behaves the way he does? Gratitude feels very difficult when it comes to his attitude and character. Eventually, I became quieter. More resigned. Like… ah, whatever.

This month taught me something uncomfortable about myself: why do I keep thinking about other people’s feelings when they don’t even think about mine? Yet when I express my thoughts, I’m told that I’m the one who lacks empathy. My point of view and others’ perspectives are different, and I am tired of trying to understand this world.

If there is one small thing I can say I’m proud of, it’s this: even though my husband has no income, he doesn’t stop me from spending money on food. Or maybe he’s just tired of stopping me, so he lets it be. Either way, I’m grateful for that small freedom.

December ended not with clarity, not with hope, but with quiet exhaustion. Still standing. Still moving. Even if it feels flat, even if it feels heavy, I made it to the end of the month—and maybe that is enough for now.